I am fat….

Isn’t it strange that we never say, “I am a cold”, instead of “I have a cold”, or “I am a headache”, instead of “I have a headache”?

Joel Osteen said: “Whatever follows I am, is going to come looking for you.”  Good thing then, that we don’t say “I am a cold”, right? Except, how often do we say “I am so fat”…..and then we wonder why no diet out there is working for us, giving us results or bringing about lasting change.  Maybe the answer lies in changing our self dialogue with immediate effect!  But that’s not all…

Only two emotions exist.  That’s it!  That’s all there is. Just two: Love and Fear.

It’s quite a relief really, because as humans we love to overcomplicate our lives.  For me, only having to evaluate how I feel in terms of Love or Fear, brings clarity and fast!

Behind every action we take, there is a driving emotion.  I have seen this so many times when it comes to practical issues like….the ever popular, losing weight 🙂

Why is it that some people are able to chose a diet, follow the diet AND achieve and maintain results?  Instead of wondering whether they have a unique ‘successful diet gene’ that others obviously don’t, we might find the answer in their intention and their self talk.

Most often, when we embark on a weight loss journey, and we really question our emotions and self talk, this might be what you’ve been telling yourself:

  • If I don’t lose weight, no one will love me (Fear) because I’m fat.
  • If I don’t lose weight, people will see me as the failure I’m afraid I might be (Fear) because I’m fat.
  • If I don’t lose weight, this war I’m waging with my body every day, will never end (Fear) because I’m fat.
  • If I don’t lose weight I can’t imagine that I’ll ever get the job I really want, because my weight is all they’ll be able to see (Fear) because I’m fat.

Beside the fact that science has proven that our minds will create what we focus on and spend time thinking about, the fact that we hope to change something about ourselves from a place of Fear, means that we will be disappointed time and time again.  The powerful combination of a  Fear based intention and the ‘I am fat’ self dialogue is a guaranteed path to a negative outcome.

What do we do then?  We keep it as simple as possible and change the intention to Love.  We act from a place of Love AND we only ever allow the words “I am”.. to be followed with that which we would like to see more of manifest in our lives.

Let’s give it a try:

  • I lose weight, because I am so thankful for this body that has been my vessel here on earth and I wish to keep it as pure and powerful as the day it was handed to me (Love) because I am powerful.
  • I love myself enough to believe that I deserve the body of my dreams.  With the body I love I am able to make all my dreams come true (Love) because I am abundant.
  • I lose weight easily because I love myself and family so much, that I want to engage in every moment of life, instead of obsessing about my weight (Love) because I am healthy
  • I respect and love myself enough to turn away from ANYTHING that does not serve me or make me happy (Love) because I am blessed
  • I respect and love myself enough to eat healthy foods, to exercise my body by doing activities I love and embracing myself, body, mind and soul as the perfect creation and co-creator of my life, that I was always meant to be (Love) because I am wise.

So, next time you think of changing anything, be it your weight, your job, your home, remember to only act from a position of LOVE.  Never again say, ‘I am fat’.  The truth is, YOU are not fat.  Just like YOU are not a cold when you are sick.  You HAVE a cold.  A cold does not define you.  Fat does not define you either!

So, this week, whenever your mind goes ‘there’ and it says ‘I am fat’, be aware of the thought, but follow it up with an immediate and intentional ‘I am powerful and I deserve only the best’.  Say that many times, because you have the power to neutralise your subconscious negative thoughts.  That’s all! Just that.  Replace Fear with Love and you’ll be amazed at the power that is your mind.  Success and abundance resides in Love, and nowhere else. Now be the ‘I am’ you want to be!

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Laurene at a recent photo shoot

Now these principles apply to any intentional change you want to make in you life.  Weight loss is an example I chose, because it saddens me to see that so many people, especially women, seem to deny themselves their dream lives, because they are stuck in struggles with their body issues. I know this, because I was there.  I was stuck, hating my body and living my life trying to hide as much as possible.  My ‘I am’ statements were exactly what I described above, but I changed that.  If I could, anyone can.  Starting the process of co-creating your life from a place of Love and Power is the most precious gift of freedom and both the Love and the Power resides in you.

Let Love be your guide this week and watch miracles take place.

Love, always

Laurene

It’s official – you can be anything you want to be. Oprah and I said so…

I tell my kids every morning and most nights when I say goodnight:  ‘You are awesome and you can be whatever you want to be!’ and I promise you I mean it with every fibre of my being and every inch of my knowing, which is troubling because I know my son wants desperately to be a dog-owner and is visualising it with glee! As I’ve taught them that their thoughts, strengthened by their emotional visualizations create their reality, it’s only a question of time before I’m walking a dog in the snow.

It’s strange then, that it took me so long to believe it about myself AND that after exploring the possibility of it being true and coming up with the hard and fast scientific facts that it IS indeed true, I still find myself doubting it at times.

OprahWe’ve even heard it from the rich and famous many times before! It is however a little tougher to believe the likes of Oprah, when she professes that the power she possesses is exactly the same power you were born with. She says she just believed it and put it into action.  Easy to do when you have your own full time chef, personal trainer, stylist and a Billion Dollar empire.  But, as it’s Oprah saying it, we respectfully sit up, listen and nod our heads knowingly until the commercial break, which is when life happens to you all over again.

So of course, the clip I posted below is from none other than our very own Oprah,  so get ready to do your knowing nod.  In true Oprah fashion she sums it up beautifully, eloquently and powerfully,  BUT before you click on the link and listen to one of the great Masters of our time, hear this:

As you are well aware, I am not Oprah. I am Laurene but, like Oprah, I am enough. I think big (sometimes grab-your-heart-and-hope-not-to-throw-up-from-sheer-terror big) and I believe that like Oprah, I am the creator of my Life Story. I am what I believe to be and I am POWERFUL, I am more than enough, my life is extraordinary and just by being on this planet, I am making it a better place. I am exactly where I’m supposed to be right now.

The same promise and power that lives in the eyes of a newborn baby and my amazing kids, still lives in me. My subconscious wanted to believe differently at times, but I have taken back control (sometimes only hanging on by my fingernails, whilst feeling madness descend!) and I have found my Power and it is thrilling to believe that the likes of Oprah and Jim Carrey have something in common with ME….we are ALL able to create our own destiny. If you don’t believe it yet, know that your mind, your past, your circumstances CAN change back to the purist Truth with which you were born and which still resides in you and can NEVER be destroyed.

Hey, stop reading this for a moment and have some fun….write down 20 dreams or desires you have (of used to have) for your life. Any 20 things that you dream of doing, having or being.

Don’t be realistic!!! Being realistic is what created your reality in the first place.  Be a kid again and dream of walking on the moon.

Have you done it? Could you get to 20? Did you have fun? Now listen to this…. it’s mind blowing: Experts from all over the world and across all the ages agree on one thing: There is nothing on that list that you do not have the power to achieve. You are not capable of having a desire that you are not capable of fulfilling….hence the fact that I have NO desire to sky dive!!! 🙂 How awesome is that! Think about it. You were put on this earth to literally live your dreams AND you came with the full instruction manual printed on your soul. Your mind might’ve just gotten in the way as life happened to you. You know, sometimes we should just lose our minds and jump straight back into our hearts. That, and of course learn and discover some easy tools to re-acquaint ourselves with our potential.

Here’s a little tip to get back in touch with the centre of your Being, where all your manuals and your Power are stored. Just change your mind by literally changing your mind. Change your inner self talk to only positive, powerful statements about yourself. Say: “I am supremely powerful and inside of me is all I need to make every one of my dreams come true”. Say it over and over again, many times a day. When you wake up, when you go to bed. When you believe it and especially say it when you don’t believe it. Focus only on the things you want and never give any thought to those things you wish to avoid or don’t want. Speak only in the positive, speak in the now and feed your POWER. Watch and enjoy miracles appear all over the place. You might even spot many of the many miracles that already exist in you life, which your mind is not letting you see.  You are literally changing the negative spiral of thoughts that are creating unwanted outcomes.

When you watch this link, remember that each and every desire you have, no matter how unrealistic they may seem, can be achieved. Oprah might just as well have been talking about you…

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Thank you Oprah for beautifully and caringly reminding us so often, of our infinite potential and power to create.  We owe you more than just a knowing nod.  I promise to take action, to believe and to create.

Live the POWER that IS YOU and watch your True Being come to life!!!

Love, always

Laurene